Thursday, August 22, 2013

Grateful...a Warning to Other Parents

Sunday we were eating lunch after church, swimsuits on and ready to head out for a fun afternoon at the pool.  Thing 2 started asking a lot of pointed questions about batteries and water and electrocution. I didn't think much of his questions since we were headed to the pool and he is a boy.  But something Someone prompted hubby to randomly ask T2, "Why are you asking?  Did you SWALLOW a battery?"

"Yes. I did."

My heart started beating faster. "This isn't a joke.  Did you really?" I asked.

"Yes. I had it in my mouth and it just slipped down my throat."

Hubby immediately gets on the phone with a nurse, I call to see if Urgent care is open and text my best friend who is also a nurse.  We are suddenly not off to the pool for a fun family afternoon, instead we are making our first visit to the ER in our new town.  Quickly. Thankfully my folks are visiting so they were able to stay with the other Things.

At the ER they take us right back and the nurse proceeds to call poison control.  Here is where I get a little angry when I think back to that horrible day.  Poison control tells the nurse, no biggie, just take and x-ray and it will pass.  This is NOT the reaction I was expecting. My nurse friend had told me they can burn them and to get help right away.  I'm thinking, This is a big deal! But I figured they knew better. So time passes, we get the xray, see the battery (one of those round button sized ones from his little laser pointer toy) in his stomach and sit around and wait some more to see the doctor.  After a while the ER doctor strolls in with the x-ray and casually asks T2 what he swallowed.  When he hears it is a battery he says "you aren't going anywhere!" and rushes out of the room.

My heart starts racing again.

More time passes as the MD consults with a pediatric surgeon who is at another hospital.  We are told that since it is past his esophagus this is good.  But it still needs to come out immediately.  We drive to another hospital across town where the pediatric surgeon is waiting for us. They rush us right in through the ER. By then T2 is complaining his tummy hurts, no kidding - it is literally burning him from the inside out.  I'm praying like crazy for God to keep it in his stomach where they can reach it and that it won't burn him or damage anything.

They get T2 all hooked up and he is asking TONS of questions about everything they are doing.  His stomach might hurt, but it didn't curb his curiosity.  Then we are ushered out to a waiting room across the hall.  A little while later I see a nurse go in with some supplies.  Another nurse comes down to explain that he had a lot of food in his stomach they had to get out first (yes, he didn't tell us until AFTER he had eaten his whole sandwich!) But looking back I wonder if that helped move it down out of the more dangerous esophagus zone.

While we are waiting I'm thinking.  And praying.  And thinking some more.  T2 has always been an oral kid.  And I'm constantly on him about putting things in his mouth.  I think he was afraid to tell me about the battery. He thought he would get in trouble. That is what scares me the most.  He wasn't going to tell us.

He gets a lot of tummy aches so if he had complained at the pool hours later we wouldn't have done anything about it.  Probably would have chalked it up to pool water.  But he was afraid that he might get electrocuted at the pool with that battery so he started asking all those questions.

I NEVER would have thought to ask him if he had swallowed one and I am so GRATEFUL God brought it to light before it was too late.  (An answer to a frequent prayer of every mom for God to protect our kids, reveal when they are doing wrong and need correction, or in danger).

In that waiting room I also thought about all the parents that wait all the time for their children's test results, surgeries, chemo, answers to unexplained illness.  This scare gave me a small taste of what they go through and a larger perspective on their suffering. I'm not saying from my few moments of fear I know what they are going through, but I know a little better how to pray for them.

Finally another nurse emerged across the hall and gave us a thumbs up sign.  Some good friends showed up to pray with us and support us.  Soon after the doctor came out to give us the pictures and tell us everything went smoothly.  He did have some burns in his stomach but they weren't too bad.  We were lucky.  She told us if it gets stuck in their throat it can burn them within an hour and some kids don't survive.  I'm glad she wisely shared that bit of info AFTER the battery was safely out of him.

Incredibly, this was the THIRD battery removal from kids she had done that weekend alone.  She was surprised to hear of the misinformation that poison control gave the nurse and promised to call them.  She also indicated they are trying to get these little batteries off the market.  I don't know how to do that but I do know how to get them OUT OF MY HOUSE!

I bought back from my kids the laser pointers they had picked up at Wal Mart with their allowance.  It is the only toy they have that the batteries aren't screwed securely in. I've also had a several conversations with my kids about telling us right away if they accidentally swallow something or someone is hurt, and not to worry about getting in trouble.

 I knew that batteries don't belong in your body but I didn't realize how dangerous they are.  That is why I'm sharing this even though it still keeps me awake at night. I hate even thinking about it but am continually grateful it all turned out okay.  Please learn from our mistake, warn your kids how dangerous they are, even if you think they are too old to worry about it.Thing 2 is SEVEN years old.  It wasn't his four year old brother who swallowed it (though he recently stuck a lego in his nose). T2 was just curious what they tasted like (why, I don't know!) and swallowed it by accident. Remind them again that they can come to you and won't get in trouble if they do accidentally swallow something or do something that might hurt them. And pass this warning on to another parent.

 Raising boys is not for the faint of heart!  And I can't always keep them safe as much as I try.  But I can and do pray for them.  And knowing they quickest route to the ER and Urgent care doesn't hurt.



Monday, August 12, 2013

On Being a Mom and a Teacher


I was really nervous about this day, more nervous than I expected.  It wasn't so much that I just sort of had an idea of what we were going to do (after camping all weekend and spending zero time final prepping).  It wasn't that I didn't think I could teach my kids; I've done it their whole lives after all!  It wasn't even because I'd have three BOYS to keep in line and get new information into their brains.  It was more about my relationship with one of my boys in particular.  I think this summer has been a challenging transition for him and  it is playing out in his over all behavior.  If I'm already struggling to get respect and obedience for the simple daily chores how in the world am I going to do it as a teacher?

A good friend and successful home schooling mom (her son is in college) recently reminded me of

1 Corinthians 13:1- If I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but do not have love, I have become a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal.

regarding teaching.  She warned me that I could have very smart and accomplished children but if I do it without love they are going to be really messed up! (my words, not hers). Yes, I need to be teacher and mom and disciplinarian and loving them well is doing all three.  But if I do it without all the other things listed in the rest of that passage defining LOVE (patience, kindness, gentleness, etc) then I will have failed.  

And of course I can't do any of it.  Not on my own.  I have to daily draw upon the fullness of my Father's love for me and let it spill over to my kids.  If I try to do it on my own I just end up a noisy gong in their ears giving one more lecture and ultimatum.  That is NOT what I want them to remember from home school. 

I want them to remember the nature walk we took this morning, our discussion on what and why we do the Pledge of Allegiance, the poem they memorized on Individuality for HIStory and our discussion on discretion for Bible. These are the things that get me excited about home school, uniquely crafting their education around our family's values/faith.




Being a teacher and a mom is a tricky balance I'm far from mastering. But I know where to start with both - showing them the same love that He shows me daily. The sacrificial love that took Him from His Throne in Heaven to a dirty manger full of hay to a cross of shame. The powerful Love that rose again and bids me to do the same in Him (Galatians 2:20).  The gracious love that welcomes me to let go of my mistakes, receive his forgiveness and start over and over again. This is the love I want to show my kids, both as a mom and a teacher.  And I can only teach it as well as I receive it from my Savior.



Wednesday, August 7, 2013

"Quiet" times with Kids

 Before becoming a mom I had no idea how precious sitting quietly could be!  I certainly under appreciated the fact that any time I wanted to I could open my Bible, journal and pray uninterrupted (i.e., have a "Quiet Time"). For the past nine years it seems my sons without fail wake up at the "crack of the Bible" (so the saying goes).  It. REALLY. IS. UNCANNY. 

Some exhausted years I've responded less than lovingly to their interruption of my morning routine. But with more experience... and sleep... I've mellowed a bit.  Now I can without mommy-guilt pop in a video for the unexpected, and by unexpected I mean totally expected (sorry I hear a LOT of Phineas and Ferb in the background of my days), and sit down in another room to enjoy my time with Jesus. 

The other morning as I settled into the couch with my coffee a little boy appeared.  Thing 2 (7yrs) is my snuggler and it isn't enough for him to be near me on the couch, he was practically on top of me. I almost shooed him away while trying not to spill my coffee as I scooted halfway off the couch.  Then I remembered an awesome post from a great friend I'd read recently about teaching others to have quiet times.  If I don't disciple my own kids I have no business spending time discipling others.

So Thing 2 and I flipped over to Psalm 1 and read it together using her method.  It wasn't the first time I'd had a quiet time with him but it had been a long while! Too long.  I encouraged him to draw a picture of what we talked about and broke it down to a few key words I hope he will remember.  Follow God's plans/guidelines for you = have a fulfilling life. 

Here is his page from my journal:


I'm certain I won't forget that lesson for awhile.  I hope he won't either.